“The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry, and leave us
naught but grief and pain, for [once] promised joy.” (Robert Burns, 1785)
Sometimes, even despite our best efforts, the future we’ve tried to build
with a spouse or significant other begins to fall apart. Sometimes it can
be salvaged; sometimes it can’t. When it can't, it often feels like the
rug’s been pulled out from under us, we’ve had our breath knocked out,
and we no longer have any control over our own destiny or the futures of
those we care most about. At these times, it's vital to have an advisor
who can help you understand your rights and options, as well as the rights
and options of all the parties involved in the process; and to have an
advocate who will go to bat for you to acheive the best possible outcome.
As Utah divorce attorneys, at J.D. Milliner & Associates, that's what we do.
We are experienced in the area of Utah Family (Divorce) Law and, because
we have lived and worked in Utah for years, we are part of and understand
the local culture, including religious issues that may be lost on those who
haven't. Also, while most of the issues involved in Divorce Law are similar
across the country, Divorce Law is actually very state-specific. It’s better to
have an attorney who’s actually been practicing divorce and custody law here,
rather than a franchise of some out-of-state law firm with catchy radio ads. And, don't be fooled by mediation mills that try to convince you that "divorce without lawyers or courtrooms" is the way to go. At best, they must remain neutral and cannot advise you as to the law and your rights. At worst, they're trying to practice law without a license.
Every Utah divorce case must go to mediation before it can go to trial, and most divorce cases actually settle in mediation. Better, however, to go to mediation when the case is actually ready to settle, with an ethical mediator and an attorney who has your back, than to rush into it and either blow what may be your one shot at mediation without reaching a settlement, or worse yet cut a bad deal for yourself and your children because you were not well advised.
Know Your Rights & Have a Game Plan:
In our experience, too many people when faced with an impending
divorce simply crumble and give in to unreasonable demands made by
their soon-to-be-ex-spouse hoping that things will be better for everyone
if they do, or even that the other party may have a change of heart and
divorce may be avoided entirely. Unfortunately, it seldom works out that
way. Too often they come to see us after a few months, or years, have
passed since their divorce and they realize that they and/or their children
just can’t live with the deal they made. At that point, it is more difficult,
and expensive, to try to undo what’s already been done, and get back to
what would have been a fair resolution if they’d sought out our assistance
early on and stuck to their guns throughout the process.
As Utah Divorce Attorneys in Salt Lake City, at J.D.Milliner & Associates our approach is to counsel with our clients to make sure they understand what the realistic possibilities and probabilities are, help them set reasonable goals and objectives, and then stake out an aggressive, but reasonable, position early on. By doing this, we retain the respect of the court and usually gain the respect of the other side. Better things happen when you’re respected!
To learn more about the specific areas of Family Law that we can assist you with, please click on the following links: